Our society judges people pretty harshly for speaking frankly about physical beauty and its in relationships. Whatever nasty comments you get about your letter, I nie endorse them.
We live in a time where we get a really unworkable, contradictory set of messages about attractiveness.
On the one hand, we're immersed in fables that tell us that we should look past physical beauty: Beauty and the Beastthe tale of the Ugly Duckling, and so on.
We're told that the soul and the body are two different things, and that the former is much more important.
Go beneath the line - dip your head into the murky pool that is the comment section below - and you’ll see a familiar refrain: “Yeah, but why do women only want to date tall guys? And then there’s pop-culture’s obsession with TDH - the Tall, Dark, and Handsome man with piercing eyes and a square jaw and arms like Burmese pythons. Or are these little fellas just grasping at (thankfully) low-hanging fruit in a desperate bid to justify their rejection? We asked women to give us the unvarnished, unapologetic truth on how they feel about short men. Well, all my long-term boyfriends have been over six-foot. ' And he got crap about his height shouted at him.
” Evolution made women side with taller men for “protection”. There’s sabre tooth tigers and famine and all that. What about the short, blonde, kinda-average-in-the-face guys? A You Gov poll in 2014 showed that women find romantic partners 5’3” or shorter to be "too short for comfort" with 5'11" deemed to be ideal with those 6'3" or over deemed "too tall". I’ve always wondered if there was something about taller guys that made them more keen to settle down. Like, when guys get all defensive about their height, do they have reason to? SL: Did he ever ask you if you were embarrassed by it? He asked me this at least once a week when we first started dating and once a fortnight later on.
SL: Do women care about height as much as men think they care about height? Most of my friends wouldn't feel terribly comfortable dating someone shorter than them and personally - though I'm above average height - I find it off-putting if a bloke is shorter than me. SL: Have you had any experiences with the less-than-tall? I enjoy, at minimum, a full head of space to myself. Also, and this is subway or tube riding specific, but it's nice to be with someone and still have your own space. Like, if we are on the train together, he isn't just right in my line of sight. I like tall men, but I've been totally down for shorter guys with a lot of confidence. SL: What would you say when he asked you those questions? He would be okay until someone else made a joke about it, then he would lose his shit.This seems to be the trend but it doesn 8767 t explain all the cute girls featuring ugly men as dates/boyfriends out there.However, I did notice one thing yesterday in San Diego, women paired with ugly men do check out better looking guys when they spot them, especially with other women and you can tell they might be thinking, what am I doing with this dud when I could have THAT?As long as the guy makes up for his shortcomings by being a lovely, funny, confident person then height difference is such a minor thing. Although, this is not an exclusive thing - there are some fucking weirdo tall dudes... SL: Do you think you could ever date someone a little shorter than you? At a push 5'10"-ish maybe, but the same height or smaller? I do prefer a more “manly” man though so height to me is important to that side of it. SL: Do you think the onus is on shorter guys to try harder?I wouldn't feel like I'm with someone manly if he’s shorter than me. Yeah or just generally make more of an effort - both romantically and sexually.